I spent a lot of time on Christian dating sites, but was having very little luck.

You see, unlike most people in my generation I am woefully Internet a literate. I could never get my profile to look just like I wanted, and it seemed to be having a negative effect on my attempt to meet attractive Christian singles. I started to despair of my chances.

The church I go to is a good church, but it is also a pretty old church. There are few or no Christian singles at any time, and it is extremely hard to meet someone there. I used to go on speed dates when I was an atheist, but since I converted I hadn't been on any.

I had figured that there was no such thing as Christian speed dating. Fortunately, I was wrong.

Basically, Christian speed dating is just like any other kind of speed dating. The main difference is that everyone there is Christian. If you are someone who religion is very important to, this is crucial.

I could've gone to a normal speed dating place, but I probably would have been confronted with a whole room full of nonbelievers. It would have been very hard to meet someone since only a few of the people there would have been Christian. By going on Christian speed dates, I knew that I had a lot more chance of meeting Mrs. right.

Although I was very excited when I found out about the Christian speed dating, my first attempt was kind of unsuccessful. I think I just got my hopes up too high, and so was bound to be disappointed when I got there. I met a few women there, but none seemed quite right.

I went out a couple dates after that, but none of them worked out. I knew I had to give it another go.

This time, I went all out. I made sure that I was extremely presentable, cut my hair, shaved, and bought some beautiful new clothes. I know that you aren't supposed to judge people by appearances, but everyone does to some degree. I figure that my Christian speed dating would be a lot more successful if I looked the part.

I have to admit, I'm pretty sure I turned some heads when I walked in there. A few of the women looked up and smiled at me, and I smiled back. From the moment I entered the room, I knew that this would be my opportunity to meet the woman of my dreams.

As it turned out, I only met one woman there who I really liked, but she also like me. The very next day, we went on a date together and it went really well. Six months later, we were married.

Christian Ministries

I first become involved in Christian ministries in 1996. To be honest, at the time I was not much of a committed Christian. I basically did it because my wife was into it.

Christian ministry was alright for me, but it wasn't anything I particularly put faith in. The Christian youth Ministry I was involved in did some good work in the community, and I supported that, but I wasn't sure about the whole God thing. I liked that they were helping to keep kids off drugs and to provide job advice for the young, but I didn't understand what any of that had to do with Jesus.

Part of it had to do with the dazzling variety of Christian ministries out there. There are people of nearly every description ministering for Christ, and some of them are more helpful than others. One Christian ministry might just preach the gospel to the converted, while another one might take trips to foreign lands, help disadvantaged people, and spread the word of Christ to folks who never would experience it otherwise.

There are Christian healing ministries, Jews for Jesus, Protestant ministries of every stripe, and even groups that don't really fit neatly into any category. Since all these people seem to believe somewhat different things, it was hard for me to believe that Christ was at the center of it.

That all changed when I had a religious awakening. It happened quite suddenly and unexpectedly, and to this day I can't explain it except to say that God works in mysterious ways.

I wasn't asking for guidance, and I wasn't even really thinking about Jesus Christ at the time. I was just sitting on my couch when it hit me – the full glory of the love of God. It turned my work in the Christian ministries around overnight.

Before my religious awakening, I was just sort of going through the motions. I would do good work for Christian ministries, but I wasn't really inspired about it. After, however, I felt tireless.

No matter how much I would do, it would never be to too much. I had an almost inexhaustible zeal both for good works and for sharing my faith with others. I studied the Bible with a group, participated in church events, and in general went beyond the call of duty.

I would minister to Christians, atheists, and to a large number of agnostics who hadn't made up their minds about the great questions of the universe. I can't speak for the works of other Christian ministries, but I suspect that many of them have people with similar religious awakenings working inside. Now I understand how so many different people can be inspired by the same experience.

A lot of my friends are surprised when they find d out that I give out Christian dating advice.

Many of them don't understand it. They wonder why dating advice for Christians would be any different from any other good advice. After all, Christians face many of the same dating issues as Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists, and members of any other religious group.

Some Christian dating singles extremely devout, of course, but other ones are quite secular. They come from many different denominations, and have many different interests. Some Christian dating singles want to settle down quickly, while others want a fun fling with someone else raised in their faith.

So the question remains, what makes Christian dating advice different from other forms of advice on dating?

In one sense, nothing. Christian dating advice deals with the same dating romance issues as anything else. Sometimes, it can be more conservative than many other sorts of psychological advice for meeting singles, but it doesn't have to be.

In another sense, however, there is a difference. Christian dating advice tries to draw inspiration and guidance from the Bible. Christians may take on the same lessons as members of another faith at the end of the day, but they like to find them in the proper book.

You see, my devout Christian clients like to link every aspect of their life to biblical teaching. Whether they are buying a home, inviting a neighbor over for dinner, finding a college for their daughter, or doing something else entirely,they like to see what the Bible has to say. By coming up with dating advice for Christian singles, I can help them live their lives according to the teaching of the Bible.

The Bible was written a long time ago, and sometimes it is hard to see the relevance to some current issues such as modern dating. By making dating advice for Christians available, I help people continue on their traditions.

Of course, not all Christians agree on dating protocols. Some Christian singles are very modern, preferring to meet romantic interest in the bar, date multiple partners at the same time, and take a casual approach to love and romance. Most of the people I know who seek out Christian dating advice, however, are more traditional than that.

They see dating advice for Christians as a way to stay away from the modern world and have a more conservative lifestyle. I don't judge. I just try to serve my clients as well as I can.

Whether a secular Christian or religious one, you can draw inspiration about love and relationships from the teachings of the Bible. That is the message that I hope my clients draw at the end of the day.

Astrology Love Matches

I have always been fascinated by divination in general, and by astrology in particular. When most people see ads for astrology love matches on the television, they don't think about the fact that the system goes back thousands of years.

Astrological star signs are linked to the world of ancient agricultural tribes who believed that different gods dictated the major changes that went on every year. The planting and harvesting of crops, the changing of the seasons, and even birth and death were carefully regulated in cyclical periods by these gods.

If the system of astrological charts and signs has managed to survive to this day, to me that is a powerful sign that there might be something to it. Of course there are some astrology love matches that are just there to tell you what you want to believe, but who knows if there aren't other ones that really penetrate the deep mysteries of the universe.

I have to say that, in my life, I have had more than one friend whose world was changed profoundly by an astrological reading. You might say that if it works, it works. Whether astrology channels the powerful forces that rule the universe or just lets you hear what you need to hear through psychology, either way it does seem to help some people.

There are a few different styles of astrology love matches out there, and not all of them appeal to everyone.

The simplest sort of astrology love match simply gives you a prediction based on your astrological sign. For example, it might tell all Leos that a particular month is the best time to find new relationships while cautioning Cancers to stick with what they have. More sophisticated astrology love matches try to go a step farther than this.

True divination buffs want to know about astrology sign compatibility as well as a love forecast. They try to find out what sort of person is the best romantic match for them, rather than just learning if and when love awaits.

Of course, if you really want to get meaningful astrology love matches, you should set up an appointment face to face. Find an astrologist in your area who does readings and schedule an hour with her. If you can find a really good fortune teller, you will be amazed by what you will find out.

Such people can give you a surprisingly detailed description of your own life, and the changes that will effect it. They are at once seers, therapists, and friends. I know many people who develop close personal bonds with their astrologers that last a lifetime.

It is good to know someone with an eye to your own future.

Intimacy can be a complex and difficult thing, and the definition can change over the course of your relationship.

Many people prone to addictive relationships do not really realize it until they get involved in a serious relationship with someone. Many of these people have been serial daters all their lives, moving from one dead-end relationship to another. They assume that this is just the way it goes and don't really realize that there is another, healthier alternative.

Addictive relationships don't always start with relationship addiction, but there is often a correlation. Many people who get involved in addictive relationship do it because they constantly need to be with somebody.They find a sense of identity in being part of a couple, not in some sort of inward sense of self.

The really tough thing is that they can't even be happy within their relationships. They are always trying to change people, constantly finding themselves in relationships with the wrong person because they dive into things much too quickly.

To be honest, I never would have figured out that I had issues with addictive relationships if things hadn't started getting serious. It was like all of a sudden I was getting to know someone better than I had ever known anyone before, and it was freaking me out. There were all sorts of things that I wanted to be different about my partner, and now that I was seeing who she really was, I suddenly felt like I couldn't take it.

It wasn't like I wanted to break up – I still loved her – but I could feel that both of us were having a tough time getting to a higher level of emotional intimacy. Our own previous addictive relationship dynamics made it tougher for either of us to get close enough to understand our partners and let them be who they wanted to be.

In the end, we both decided counseling for addictive relationships. On some level, I thought this might be overreacting, but I just couldn't risk it. This relationship meant so much to me, and I wanted to make sure that it worked out.

I found myself wishing that I had discovered my addictive relationship problems earlier on and sought treatment before I had met the woman of my dreams. That would have made things so much easier. In the end, however, it didn't matter.

We worked through our own interpersonal problems together, and each of us came out of therapy a happier and healthier person.It was really nice to see everything work out so well. It could have so easily gone the other way if we had been less tuned into what was going on between us.

Through communication and honesty, we were able to overcome our history of addictive relationships.